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Some conversations are only good once you have had time to put them into perspective
The weirdest conversation I never actually finished happened like this:
I was in university, walking with my friend after class. Talk turned to relationships, sex, virginity. He said that he wanted any girlfriend of his to be a virgin, and that if he ever found out that anyone he was dating wasn't one, he'd break up with her immediately. I said (half-shyly, half-defiantly, I was just discovering I had a voice) that I understood where he was coming from but that virginity should not be the only criterion by which to judge a person.
He stopped, stared, spluttered, "So you want t-t-to", he waved his hands around wildly, lost for words until his eyes lighted on the trees across the field. "You're saying it's fine if every girl here in $university suddenly decided to devirginate themselves on the nearest branch?!?!?!"
(His words, his intonation).
I opened my mouth, blanked out completely, shut it, and walked away.
It has been three years. I still haven't thought up a good comeback.
I was in university, walking with my friend after class. Talk turned to relationships, sex, virginity. He said that he wanted any girlfriend of his to be a virgin, and that if he ever found out that anyone he was dating wasn't one, he'd break up with her immediately. I said (half-shyly, half-defiantly, I was just discovering I had a voice) that I understood where he was coming from but that virginity should not be the only criterion by which to judge a person.
He stopped, stared, spluttered, "So you want t-t-to", he waved his hands around wildly, lost for words until his eyes lighted on the trees across the field. "You're saying it's fine if every girl here in $university suddenly decided to devirginate themselves on the nearest branch?!?!?!"
(His words, his intonation).
I opened my mouth, blanked out completely, shut it, and walked away.
It has been three years. I still haven't thought up a good comeback.
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*shot*
Okay I'm not very good with comebacks either. But that sounds like.. a weird conversation. XD;
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Well, virginity imo is more of like a state rather than a medical thing (i.e. the continued existence of the hymen). I read that those can break from like cycling, and splitting and stuff.
Which is kind of stupid if you think about it... I mean, that you'd consider yourself not a virgin because of something other than sex. XD
And a branch... WHUT? XD XD XD
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And I could not walk through SEC field for a week.
Perhaps he meant using the branch in a sexual act, which is the only sane way to interpret his sentence (... did I just imply that suggesting an entire school have sex with branches is sane????)
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Yeah, that's probably what he meant. And no, you didn't imply that it was sane! :))
What I meant was... he was using the "technical," if you will, definition of virginity. Which is really quite... unreliable.
I remember reading this retort on a similar situation somewhere: Who would you consider more of a "virgin": A girl who has had sexual intercourse once in her life, or a girl who has never had intercourse but has performed other non-penetrative sexual acts with say, 5, or maybe a dozen other people?
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And yes! Someone in a comment below asked how he'd know that the girl is really a virgin, and really it is difficult to prove one way or another!
Does non-penetrative include anal sex? *rimshot*
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Yeah, it is difficult to prove it as it is - haha honesty system?! :))
HAHAHA XD I guess I meant non-vaginal intercourse hahaha! Srsly, like what Eula mentioned, picking that way as a method to "preserve virginity"... that's just messed up, and really, just a bunch of excuses. :))
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virginity should not be the only criterion by which to judge a person. :))
Ah well, he's just really conservative, eh? LOL!
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"A guy wants to be a woman's first love, and a woman wants a guy to be her last."
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because - if you date a virgin and do things right, she won't be a virgin for long - and then what you have to break up with her? Right after you get to the good part - and put in all that work?
NO!
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(Though I think his thing was sex after marriage, which I respect, but as a personal choice!)
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A BRANCH, FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY...! ::wheeze::
According to an OB-GYN I once read, a virgin is no longer virgin after she engages in sex, bottom line; as hymens can be broken by various means other than the one described in bodice-rippers. ::ebil grin::
But on a more serious note, I have no idea how this male being would determine the virginity of his girlfriend. By word of mouth? Not very reliable, that. From first-hand evidence? Errrrm...oh, dear.
Honestly, there are no words with which to come back to a pronouncement as that.
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I did not even think of that :O
Poor poor boy!
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It is to be hoped that should he find marital happiness, the particular gene controlling mental outlook will not be passed on to the next generation. Such a jurassic POV deserves to go the way of the dinosaurs.
/end snark
:)
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Yes.
This may be why my friends call me stubborn and utterly untactful. :D
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