The etiquette of giving clothes in the wrong size, the WTF of recycling a gift that was not yours

[afuna]

(This is my grumpy post)

My sister and I gave each other clothes that were too small for each other. And you know, I just realized that the difference beween us is this:


I gave my sister jeans that were a bit too small around the hips. What I said: "You look great! I'm sorry for giving you clothes that were too small".

My sister gave me this blouse which is a bit too small. What she said: "Hmmmm. Maybe once you've lost weight..."

I think she was trying to be helpful. I also think that she was (very emphatically) not. For a long time, her offhand comments about my weight left me feeling very self-conscious. Probably even just two years ago I would have been devastated. Now, for reasons I'll probably end up talking about in another post, things have changed. Her comments don't always roll off me, but tonight... tonight I looked in the mirror and you know, I still really like who I see, not just who she wants to see. So :-)


My sister gave my aunt a gorgeous yellow scarf. Problem? Scarf was mine. It got mixed in with my sister's stuff, and my sister decided it was a good candidate for gift recycling.

I'm torn between being pissed off, and falling over in amusement at the absurdity of the situation. I think I'll settle on a third emotion: *facepalm* Oh sis.

Comments

[lacey]

That sort of quiet acceptance of self is worth more than any gift you'll get this year or any other.

Good for you.

[zorkian]

Hell yes and mega +1.

[afuna]

<3

[sophie]

Yes, this, definitely. <3

[sophie]

Oh dear at the scarf situation. That must have been awkward.

How did that play out, out of morbid curiosity?

[afuna]

Eh, nothing much happened. I pulled my sister aside to let her know, but we didn't let my aunt know because that would shame my sister and hurt my aunt.

[lady-angelina.livejournal.com]

=( *Hugs*

[pauamma]

Did your sister believe in good faith that the scarf was hers/meant for her? (Also, yay positive body image.)

[afuna]

I think so. It got mixed in with her stuff, she didn't recognize it as something she used regularly....

(Yes, yay :))