afuna: Cat under a blanket. Text: "Cats are just little people with Fur and Fangs" (Default)
While I was setting up a couple of personal accounts and linking them up to work friends, it hit me: I am careful about who I reveal my online identity to because I don't want to be polite.

For several reasons, I am very restrained offline. I find interesting things that other people don't (code, etc), I don't find interesting things that other people do (people, etc), I say the wrong things, etc etc so I've learned to filter like crazy mad, but in a quiet polite way.

Online, I talk about things that interest me. Offline, I keep quiet because that is polite.

I like my relative lack of restraint here, when I don't feel like I have to please everybody (or even anybody). It took me a long time to get to the point where I felt I could say things freely (I'm not there yet in some ways but I am much better here than elsewhere), and I worry that if I ever merge the two, then restraint will win out.

I don't want that.