I'm having exactly the same dilemma. Right now I'm thinking about the process of transferring over all of my dreamwidth works to my real name, which is crazy talk, but it's also programming experience which I'd really like to have associated with my real name. Except historically none of it has been! I have no objection to any reasonable number of individuals knowing the connection between the two online identities but I don't ever want to be known by an amorphous mass, you know?